"And likewise, white people who truly want to be allies can find their path to ally-ship without black validation and without us having to take time out of our days to educate them. They can find their own curriculum and figure out for themselves how they can do their part in fighting the good fight. And, again, they can do so without the promise of black praise. I’m no longer asking decent white people to “get their cousins”, I’m only expecting them to “get” themselves. And, I’m not even about to keep checking to see if they’re doing that much. Because it’s not my goddamn job – and it’s not yours either."
I get the exhaustion. But African-Americans constitute only about 13% of the US population. Without allies, progress against racism will be slow if at all. Contemptuous attitudes like this toward allies is going to demoralize them and make them less likely to speak out against racism. After all, people are only human.